The serving spoon keeps circling back at Sunday dinner

Tuesday at 2:37 PM 612 views 2 posts

My aunt's version of love is a second scoop of rice before I've finished the first. I'm 11 weeks in, down 14 lbs, and I've been practicing a 1–10 fullness check instead of cleaning my plate on autopilot. Last Sunday I got to about a 6 and felt done. She reached for my bowl and I said, "I'm going to sit with this for a bit and see if I want more." That worked better than any speech. Then my mom set a tin of cookies on the table near my elbow. I didn't announce anything; I moved them to the counter and made tea. I'm trying to stay kind and not make dinner a debate, but I also don't want to ignore my body just to keep the peace. For those who've been here: what gentle phrase helps when someone keeps offering without turning the meal tense?

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Oh, I know that spoon. At my family’s table I started asking for a little takeout cup before the second scoop even lands — our local pharmacy sells a 10-pack cheap by the register, and I keep one in my purse. Auntie sees me packing it for Monday’s lunch and feels like she’s still feeding me, but I don’t have to push past a 6. Does your aunt take “I’m saving it for tomorrow” better than “I’m full”? Mine does, every time. I also sip seltzer between bites, which slows the whole circus down. The insurance app thinks I’m weird for logging Sunday dinners, but it keeps me honest.